[sql] Identifier validation errors do not name the allowed charset nor flag placeholder-shaped values

[jamiesun]

Summary

Identifier validation in sshx sql rejects the value but never says what is allowed or why this particular value looks wrong. Two shapes observed on origin/main @ 1be5f1d:

$ sshx sql -h=prod-web --db='[REDACTED]' "SELECT 1"
sshx: SQL statement blocked: database name "[REDACTED]" contains unsupported characters   # rc=255

$ sshx sql -h=prod-web --db='my db;drop' "SELECT 1"
sshx: SQL statement blocked: database name "my db;drop" contains unsupported characters   # rc=255

Both are technically correct and safe (fail-closed, exit 255), but neither helps the caller fix the input:

1. No allowed charset. contains unsupported characters doesn't name the offending character or the accepted set ([A-Za-z0-9_.-]?). The caller has to guess-and-retry.
2. No placeholder/redaction hint. The first value is the shape produced by client-side output redaction ([REDACTED]-style placeholders) — an agent that copies a redacted Inventory/log value into --db gets a validation error that reads like sshx found dangerous characters, when the real story is "you passed a placeholder, not a real database name". That misdirected my own triage once (RAM-TA3 Tools/sshx-experience-log.md, 2026-09-27 entry).

Proposed

Enrich the rejection message, e.g.:

sshx: SQL statement blocked: database name "[REDACTED]" contains unsupported characters
  allowed: [A-Za-z0-9_.-]
  hint: the value looks like a redacted placeholder ([...]); pass the real database name

• Charset part: always print allowed set (and optionally the offending byte index).
• Placeholder part: heuristic on bracketed-uppercase / [REDACTED]-like tokens → one-line hint. No behavior change: still fail-closed with rc=255.

Environment

• Built from origin/main 1be5f1d (v0.19.0-1-g1be5f1d); identical message on installed v0.17.0.
• Related log entry: RAM-TA3 Tools/sshx-experience-log.md → 2026-09-27 "sshx run 内嵌 psql 被静默判为 blocked".